One question I get asked a lot is, “Lola, what actually makes you reply to someone?”
The truth is, I read every message I receive. Some make me laugh, some make me blush, and some leave me wondering if the sender even read my profile!
So, if you’ve ever thought about messaging me, here are a few things that always catch my attention.
😂 Humour Wins Every Time
A man who can make me smile is already off to a great start.
It doesn’t have to be a perfectly crafted joke—just something genuine, playful or witty. Life is far too short to take ourselves seriously all the time, and I love chatting with someone who enjoys a bit of fun.
😌 Quiet Confidence
Confidence is incredibly attractive.
Not the loud, boastful kind, but the type that comes naturally. Someone who’s comfortable being himself, knows what he wants, and doesn’t feel the need to impress everyone.
That kind of confidence stands out.
✉️ A Thoughtful First Message
Please don’t just write “Hi.”
Tell me something about yourself.
Ask me a question.
Mention something you’ve read on my blog.
It instantly gives us something to talk about and makes the conversation feel much more natural.
💕 Compliments That Mean Something
Of course it’s lovely to hear that someone thinks I’m attractive, but my favourite compliments are the ones that show you’ve actually noticed something about me.
Maybe it’s my smile.
My sense of humour.
Something I wrote that made you laugh.
Those little details tell me you’re interested in more than just a photo.
😊 Be Yourself
The best conversations always start with someone who’s simply being genuine.
There’s no perfect opening line, no secret formula, and no magic words.
Just be yourself, be respectful, and don’t be afraid to let your personality shine through.
Who knows? Your message might just be the one that makes me smile next.
💋 Fancy saying hello? I’d love to hear from you.
