{"id":300,"date":"2026-07-23T12:43:35","date_gmt":"2026-07-23T11:43:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lolasummers.com\/blog\/?p=300"},"modified":"2026-07-23T12:43:37","modified_gmt":"2026-07-23T11:43:37","slug":"%f0%9f%92%8c-i-read-every-message-but-only-some-make-me-smile","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lolasummers.com\/blog\/2026\/07\/23\/%f0%9f%92%8c-i-read-every-message-but-only-some-make-me-smile\/","title":{"rendered":"\ud83d\udc8c I Read Every Message\u2026 But Only Some Make Me Smile"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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One question I get asked a lot is, “Lola, what actually makes you reply to someone?”<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The truth is, I read every message I receive. Some make me laugh, some make me blush, and some leave me wondering if the sender even read my profile!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, if you’ve ever thought about messaging me, here are a few things that always catch my attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\ud83d\ude02 Humour Wins Every Time<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A man who can make me smile is already off to a great start.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn’t have to be a perfectly crafted joke\u2014just something genuine, playful or witty. Life is far too short to take ourselves seriously all the time, and I love chatting with someone who enjoys a bit of fun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\ud83d\ude0c Quiet Confidence<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Confidence is incredibly attractive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not the loud, boastful kind, but the type that comes naturally. Someone who’s comfortable being himself, knows what he wants, and doesn’t feel the need to impress everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That kind of confidence stands out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2709\ufe0f A Thoughtful First Message<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Please don’t just write “Hi.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell me something about yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask me a question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mention something you’ve read on my blog.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It instantly gives us something to talk about and makes the conversation feel much more natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\ud83d\udc95 Compliments That Mean Something<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Of course it’s lovely to hear that someone thinks I’m attractive, but my favourite compliments are the ones that show you’ve actually noticed something about me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe it’s my smile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My sense of humour.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Something I wrote that made you laugh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those little details tell me you’re interested in more than just a photo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\ud83d\ude0a Be Yourself<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The best conversations always start with someone who’s simply being genuine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There’s no perfect opening line, no secret formula, and no magic words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just be yourself, be respectful, and don’t be afraid to let your personality shine through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Who knows? Your message might just be the one that makes me smile next.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\ud83d\udc8b\u00a0Fancy saying hello? I’d love to hear from you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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